Alexandra Dimant, Psychotherapist

My Experience with Alexandra Dimant as my therapist was a rewarding exercise in personal growth and one I will always draw from. I encourage anyone unsure about therapy or who to choose as their therapist to give her a chance to work with them. If you are interested in why I feel that way, please keep reading.

In the beginning, choosing to seek therapy and finding the right therapist, like many things I was experiencing, was a lonely endeavor and my hesitation in taking that first step delayed my therapeutic journey for over a year. It was because my story was nothing remarkable. I had no obvious mental disease or severe childhood trauma. I was just dealing with the same things many adults face but perhaps don’t share. Like a perceived pressure to be more, discourse in my marriage, social anxiety, feelings of shame, unworthiness, not being enough, and feeling like I could not or did not deserve to express these feelings, or that I had no willing audience to hear them. I desperately needed a strategy and the first step was getting past the stigma that any of these were not perfectly valid reasons to seek therapy. It then became a matter of finding someone with whom I could learn to be vulnerable. Because If you’ve ever read anything by Brene Brown, you would know that vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity and it is the source of authenticity and connection. All things I craved more of.

My decision to choose Alexandra to be my therapist did not go unrewarded despite struggling through many of my early sessions. I was still burdened by feelings of shame and feeling undeserving to be there. I would eventually realize I had made a lifelong practice of armoring up in difficult situations instead of allowing myself to be vulnerable; a habit that took time to break. Nonetheless I never once felt judged by her. I would learn the judge was within me and her office on 50th street became my weekly safe place to talk about everything I was experiencing and feeling. Her style was compassionate, disarming, and thought provoking. Her temperament allowed me to feel completely at ease. While she was experienced and knowledgeable, she was never pretentious about it and our sessions always had a casual and “at ease” vibe. This is not to say that the work was not hard. Sometimes our sessions felt akin to 50 minutes of slogging through mud and feeling like I was getting nowhere. She was always patient and reassuring on these days. Then there were sessions where I walked in the door feeling like I had nothing, expected nothing and by the end came away feeling like I had just reached another level. In this sense the progress came in spurts and it was unpredictable but when it happened there was a shared sense of satisfaction for us both. The point is I always felt like she was as invested in the process as I was and there was a sense of partnership.

To sum it up my sessions with Ms. Dimant have been a catalyst for much positive change in my life as my ability to be vulnerable and connect with others and the openness and equanimity with which I view my life has improved immensely. I encourage anyone who is considering therapy and perhaps has doubts about whether it might help, do not hesitate to give Ms. Dimant an opportunity help you. Because if you are already thinking about it you have reason enough. Be it for one session or many sessions your experience will probably be a rewarding one.

I met Alexandra a couple of years ago when she helped me through my divorce. She was recommended to me by a friend and so I went to see her. At the time, my experience with counseling has not been a positive one, and I was skeptical at first. Looking back, I don't know how I would be able to make it through without Alexandra's support and gentle guidance. I am not in therapy anymore but if there is ever a need, I am definitely coming back.